Catasauqua Press

Wednesday, June 26, 2019

Respectfully Yours: Gossip reflects poorly

Friday, June 21, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a friend who I really like, with one exception. She will tell me things others have told her and it makes me uncomfortable. It makes me wonder what she says about me when I am not around. I would like to be able to keep this friendship, but not being able to speak freely with her makes me uncomfortable. How can I steer the conversation away from gossip?

Dear Reader, Gossip is unnecessary, unflattering and reflects poorly on character.

It would appear your friend is someone who thinks gossip is innocent and makes it a topic of conversation.

Respectfully Yours: Party RSVP

Friday, June 7, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I love hosting dinner parties. I always send out invites asking for RSVPs. What’s the proper way to handle it when I get no response? I don’t want to be pushy or rude, but it’s hard to plan seating and having enough food not knowing in advance who is coming.

Dear Reader,

It is extremely frustrating for a host and it makes party planning difficult when people do not let you know if they want to attend or not.

Respectfully Yours: Second baby shower

Friday, May 31, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, My sister’s first daughter is almost 18-months-old. My sister is expecting her second child in fall. I’d like to host a baby shower to celebrate her new baby. Is hosting a shower appropriate for a second pregnancy?

Dear Reader,

Deciding to have a second or even third baby shower is a question that has a lot of mixed answers.

Some people consider it rude and others see nothing wrong with the idea.

There are even some specific circumstances and guidelines people will use before considering throwing a second baby shower.

Respectfully Yours: Social media miffs

Sunday, May 26, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Maybe I am just being old-fashioned, but my grandson just announced on Facebook that he and his wife are expecting their first child in fall. We don’t live nearby, but we manage to talk on the phone every couple of months. Finding out on Facebook that I’m going to be a great grandmother hurt. It made me feel of equal importance in his life as his middle school friends. I would have liked a phone call from my grandson rather than finding out on social media. Is this the new norm or is this as rude as I think it is?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Others’ plates

Tuesday, May 21, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I enjoy dining out with a group of my friends. But there is one person who is always picking food off my plate. I don’t mind when a group of us shares dishes around the table, but I can’t stand it when someone starts casually eating off of my plate without asking. What should I do without embarrassing myself or the person?

Dear Reader,

When did “Mine is mine. Yours is mine” become the rule at the table?

It’s one thing when family members or significant others take food from each other’s plates.

Respectfully Yours: Son’s prom manners

Thursday, May 9, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My son will be going to the prom soon, and he asked for my help in doing everything right and being a gentleman. I thought that was very endearing, but I don’t really know what to tell him. What are some proper prom manners I can share with him?

Dear Reader,

I am thrilled your son cares and wants to make a good impression on his prom date.

Respectfully Yours: Pronounce name

Friday, May 3, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have an unusual name and it tends to be mispronounced frequently. What is the politest way to correct someone who keeps saying your name wrong without making it awkward?

Dear Reader,

Few things are more frustrating than hearing your own name mispronounced.

There is some kind of significance in saying someone’s name to them, so it’s true that getting it wrong is significant, as well.

Respectfully Yours: Boss’s texting

Friday, April 19, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I am a grad student with a part-time job. I recently started a second part-time job working in my field. I am excited and love the opportunity to begin working in my area of expertise. I’m several weeks into the new job and am discovering my new boss will text me at all hours. He is texting me work-related problems that I feel should be discussed in person. Is it acceptable for a boss to send text messages to you about work, outside of working hours?

Dear Reader,